About five years ago in college, I decided to natural. My hair had hit a standstill. It wasn’t growing but it wasn’t shedding. I looked like I had a fresh bob cut every week, but I didn’t. It just would not grow. A friend suggested that I go natural. Normally, my friend’s suggestion are spot on but this I was not down with. But she told me how going natural helped her and what it meant for her being a black women.
What began as a way to strengthen and grow my hair turned into me joining a cultural phenomenon I wasn’t even aware of at the time. My hair has essentially been apart of my identity. Growing up, I was always known as “the pretty black girl with long hair.” (Cliche I know) When my hair became short I felt like I was losing who I was or who others thought I was. I always wore it straight and got perms every six to eight weeks like clock work because I wasn’t comfortable with people seeing my hair in its natural curly state.
As my hair began to grow so did my level confidence; it was a big deal. I began to not care how others viewed my hair or myself, as long as I was happy with the way I looked. Now, I hate straightening my hair. I only do it 3-4 times a year of that. I love my kinky curls and their different textures. I love that my hair isn’t just one way because I’m not one way. My hair is curly, kinky and big, big enough to match my personality and I like it that way.
Here’s an explainer video I created about why going natural is a big deal for black women.